Have you seen people walking around looking confident and without a care in the world and wished you could be like them? Perhaps you even had a thought about how cool they were, whether you knew them personally or just passed them in the street.
You may have felt that it was impossible to be cool, but that isn’t the case. It can be hard, but you too can be cool with a lot of work. If you want to know how to be a cool person, this article is for you with 5 ways to be cool.
What Does It Mean to Be Cool?
A cool person is often someone who doesn’t let things bother them. They are collected, calm, and don’t often show their emotions, even in hectic situations.
They also often are seen as their own person, not influenced by others. They don’t really adapt or modify their personality depending on who they are hanging out with, and stay true to themselves.
However, everyone sees cool as a little different, so what may look like a cool person to you, may not seem cool to someone else.
Some examples of traditionally cool people are:
• Leather-wearing motorcyclists
• Someone surrounded by books
• A lead singer in a band
• Someone who has the things you want for yourself
• People that wear things outside of the norm
• People that aren’t ashamed of their differences and quirks
Essentially, what it boils down to is that these people are authentically themselves, and don’t care what other people think or say about them, at least on the outside.
Who Are Some Famous Cool People?
There are plenty of cool people in the world. You likely know someone in your work, school, neighborhood, or family that is a cool person. There are also plenty of cool people that are famous and well-known throughout the country or world.
Some examples are:
• Kobe Bryant
• Jonas Salk
• Seth Rogen
• Alan Turing
• Christian Bale
• Nikola Tesla
• Nellie Bly
• Janusz Korczak
• Joe Medicine Crow
4 Signs of Being Cool
1. Put Others at Ease
Those that are often considered cool tend to put everyone at ease. They are confident and assured in everything they do, so people are often not nervous or scared when they are around someone cool.
A cool person is someone to look up to. In an emergency or stressful situation, people will look to them with respect and for guidance. Since they keep calm in any situation, they are who people tend to default to when something goes wrong.
They also tend to not be rude or judgemental, and they don’t put pressure on others. So those that are awkward or socially shy can often be put at ease whenever they are with a cool person.
2. They Are Authentic
Being authentic means being who you really are in every situation. People who are always trying to please others can’t be cool. Instead, they need to step away from trying to please others and focus on just being themselves and doing what makes them happy.
It is important to be authentic in all parts of your life. Wear what you want to wear, enjoy the things you want to enjoy, and talk about the things you want to talk about. Don’t try to force yourself to do things you don’t like and don’t know anything about to try and fit in or keep up with the times.
3. Don’t Mind Being Alone
One of the things that really make cool people cool is that they aren’t afraid to be by themselves. Some people don’t know how to be alone, desperate to be involved in drama, have friends, or have a partner to avoid being alone with themselves and their thoughts. However, cool people don’t worry about this and enjoy being alone and doing the things they like without others.
4. Always up to New Experiences
While you want to be authentic and stay true to yourself, you also don’t want to be stuck doing the same thing over and over again. Cool people are open to new experiences. They will always give something a try at least once.
A cool person doesn’t necessarily do anything dangerous, like skydiving and bungee jumping. However, they are always willing to learn and go on an adventure at the drop of a hat because they aren’t worried or nervous.
And if the thing they are excited to try isn’t popular? It doesn’t matter.
Benefits of Being a Cool Person
1. Improves Mental Health
People who aren’t cool are often constantly worried and nervous. They may not feel confident in their body. They may also be anxious, self-conscious, or question their every action. However, once you learn how to be a cool person, most of that is gone.
For a while, you may just be pretending, but after a while, it does get to be your standard way of thinking. Since you no longer care what people think, you aren’t worried about how you look, or if you said something stupid.
2. Can Learn Who You Are
When you are busy pleasing others, you don’t get to learn who you are. You can’t see what you would do in certain situations, because you are only worried about what other people would think of you.
However, once you stop caring, you get to see what it is you really enjoy and like, and who you really are under the facade.
3. Don’t Jump to Conclusions
If you are self-conscious and lack confidence, you are likely quick to jump to conclusions. If someone doesn’t text you back right away, it is because they don’t like you, or you are annoying.
If someone doesn’t respond the right way, it is because you messed up or said something you shouldn’t have. And if your partner is gone too long at work, then you may assume they are cheating on you.
While sometimes these statements may be true when you are a cool person, you know the differences between unnecessary worries, and looking for signs. You don’t worry that something negative is happening unless there are actual signs that it is happening.
4. Don’t Let Fear Get in Your Way
Have you ever wanted to do something, but felt too nervous, self-conscious, or anxious to do it? When you start to feel like a cool person, you will be able to try new things and have fun without letting fear rule your life.
You will also be often invited to do more things and try new things, so you have more opportunities to face your fears and beat them, as well as experience things you have never tried before.
How to Be a Cool Person: 5 Ways
1. Don’t Focus on Impressing Others
The first, and most major step is to make sure that you are being yourself. That is the key to being a cool person, and if you get this right, the rest of it will follow. This is also, unfortunately, the hardest step.
You have to learn to believe in yourself and do what you want to do without fear of what other people will think and without trying to change your behavior and style to appease others.
2. Treat Everyone Kindly
People that tend to try and fake being cool are often rude to others. They think that not caring about the opinions of others means that you can be as rude or cruel as you want. However, truly cool people treat everyone with respect and care. They take care of others and help anyone around them.
3. Learn to Be, or Fake, Confidence
It is hard to be confident. At first, you will likely have to fake it. There is a fine line between confidence and arrogance as well, which may be hard to figure out at first. You have to assume that everyone likes you and that people aren’t lying to make you feel better first.
Then you have to act like you don’t care what people think. You won’t go out of your way to please people, and you won’t pretend you like things you don’t to try and fit in. At first, this will be hard, and you will constantly feel like you’re faking.
Don’t feel alone about this, honestly, most people don’t realize that they are cool, and feel like they are faking it. It takes a long time for you to feel confident and secure without it being a front.
4. Have Good Hygiene
You may think that hygiene doesn’t have anything to do with being cool, but you would be wrong. Hygiene can make you feel better and more confident, and it shows that you care about yourself.
Hygiene shows that you care about yourself and your body enough to take proper care of it by showering, washing, and using skincare products daily, so make sure you take the time to take care of yourself and your body.
5. Don’t Share Everything
People that want to be liked by others tend to overshare. They will talk about their personal lives often. Most of the time, they are either unaware of it, or aware of it but somehow unable to stop.
Learning to be in control of this is important and will change how you look. While cool people aren’t mysterious per se, having an air of mystery and people not knowing all the intimate details of your life does lend itself to being cool.
This is because you don’t seem desperate. By oversharing and trying to get everyone to know your story, you seem like you are trying too hard to make friends and you want people to pity you or like you.
Can You Be Cool and Still Be Yourself?
Yes, in fact, that is the key to being cool. If you are constantly trying hard to be cool and stand out, you are usually the opposite of cool. While you may find friends and please people in the short run, the person they like is your fake personality, and not who you really are.
You may make fewer friends and it may take longer to make friends when you are being cool and being yourself, but the friendships you do build will be based on who you actually are and your commonalities. It will also be a deeper and more connected friendship.
The key to being cool is being yourself. It is harder than you might think. You may want to try and do something to impress someone else or do it without even realizing it, but learning to stay true to yourself despite your desire to please or adapt to others will be what makes you a cool person.
Being yourself shows that you are authentic, and aren’t afraid of what others think. You are also willing to stand up for what you believe in, even if it isn’t something traditionally popular or cool. This is how you will appear on the surface, even if you don’t feel that way inside. Being cool involves a lot of “faking it until you make it”, especially in the beginning.
Can Boys and Girls Both Be Cool?
Anyone of any gender can be cool. It may seem like that isn’t the case, as most of the names listed above were men. However, that is just because a lot of women are overlooked in history. But on a local scale, with friends, family members, and neighbors, you can easily be cool and be any gender you are or want to be.
As long as you follow the above guidelines and practices, you can be cool.